Monthly Archives: December 2012

Does Your Life Matter?


Words cannot express the overwhelming sense of sadness that has filled our nation once again with a senseless act of violence too horrific for words. Yet today, as the rest of the world moves on with their day, 2 young children were laid to rest in the community of Newtown, Connecticut.

I have a 9-year old and 19-month old daughters who I can only protect so much, but this insanity that has rocked the holiday season makes me fear for their safety when I can’t be there with them.

I was listening to talk radio today and found a quote which I think makes a lot of sense to the happenings in our world today.

“Everybody wants to be known, and everybody wants their life to matter. Everybody wants their life to have meaning.”  – Rush Limbaugh

Regardless of how we feel about the talk show host or not, his words are truly hitting home today. We live in a social media world where people over-share their lives on a daily basis. You can find out what someone is doing from their waking moment to going to bed at night.

Yes, I love keeping up with my friends I can’t see, but it doesn’t mean I need to take a picture of my breakfast for the world to see. A confession…I have always had dreams of being a movie actress. What does that say about me? It means I want to be known and I want my life to matter.

I was 25-years old when I fell in love with my oldest daughter. I adopted for completely selfish reasons and will tell anyone that who tells me how wonderful I am for adopting. I wanted to be a mother. I wanted my life to matter in the life of someone else. When I die and there are no more regrets I want to know that my life meant something to someone. But you know what, it does.

I am loved by a man I never thought I would meet and I matter to him. I am loved by a 9-year old who needed someone to love and raise her, and I mean something to her. I am loved by my 19-month old daughter who knows nothing of fear and craziness in the world and to her I am her world. I am loved by my parents who have raised me the best they could and then let me go (although I keep coming back) and I matter to them. I am loved by my sisters and their families and I matter.

I could go on and on, but knowing I matter and that my life has meaning outside the confines of my own mind, means I have something many people don’t have. I have the knowledge that my life is worth something. I ache for the children and adults who don’t have the reassurance that their lives are worth something and they matter to someone out there.

So whether this is you struggling to find meaning in your own life or you are part of a larger community and have people that need to know they matter, tell them. Open up to those around you. Yeah, we may think you’re crazy but chances are we are not going to reject you. We all have some amount of crazy and what is “normal” is all relative. Be someone who matters to someone else. Let your life have meaning by giving beyond yourself and being the change someone desperately needs.


The Moments we Lose

Standard have been thinking on this subject since the week of Thanksgiving, but have been so busy with work and moving and life that the time has escaped me.

It all started the week of Thanksgiving when I heard on the radio how stores were moving Black Friday sales up to start on Thursday, Thanksgiving Day. I was shocked and saddened by this report. Holidays have a way of bringing out the stress in each of us and to top it all off there are hoards of people who can’t wait to leave the family feast to fight the crowds for the “best deal in town”.

I prefer to shop online. I can find exactly what I am looking for and never have to deal with the crowds. I talked to my husband about the craziness of what has become the busiest shopping season of the year, and he tells me that if that’s what the stores are doing then so be it.

But I think whether you choose to shop at this new, earlier hours is your choice. However, the stores are creating a new holiday tradition, that instead of Thanksgiving for all the bounty we have, it’s a consumer’s madhouse that makes us drop all fronts of thankfulness to unadulterated, blood-thirsty shopping freaks.

Every year you hear the stories of tragedy that befalls someone in the mad rush for the doors. Where is the holiday cheer that should abound? Then you have some who will literally camp out in front of the store for days before a sale because they just have to have the best price they can find on something that probably don’t even need. No family time for them on Thanksgiving, unless they had family time in the line waiting outside the Best Buy.

Speaking of need, there is a lot of talk about “I need that” or “I’ve got to have that”. What is our need truly? We live in a country where there is very little that we need. Man has basic needs for survival and then we have wants. Yes, I love to shop and get new things, but I look around lately and think to myself how much we have and how little we need.

I don’t wish for world peace. I wish for a people to realize the blessings they have right in front of them, to be thankful for the little things and the big things and for the holiday season to be a Merry Christmas for all!!!